tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post6337560556248167714..comments2023-07-03T08:15:06.513-07:00Comments on attempts to speciate a new culture (homo sustainabilis?): Stiffed-Iuval Clejanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14268182906177574307noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post-56905945960884142282010-08-19T14:07:31.753-07:002010-08-19T14:07:31.753-07:00I really enjoyed your synopsis of Faludi's wri...I really enjoyed your synopsis of Faludi's writing. It sounds very true from what you have written. I think my youngest son has been sifting through cultural expectations and his own heart to find his own truth. It's not easy to do and it would be great if he didn't have too, but the reality is that he does or is...What makes me happy is to appreciate that he does and to share (when it comes up) that I am going through the same process in my own way. With time it becomes easier to do so, and that makes me happy too. S GarrardAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post-86423802872592420582010-07-12T15:42:09.339-07:002010-07-12T15:42:09.339-07:00Iuval, I totally agree. I am looking for this Ut...Iuval, I totally agree. I am looking for this Utopian Haven, and seeking a Tribe. One difficulty is that the children are resisting the very proposal of a new life. I think that, with their limited life experience, they are afraid of the unknown, and feel like things can only get worse, not better. They don't share my Vision of Better! Part of the problem is the addiction to technology, cellphones, computers, video games, etc. Youth of this age are in love with cameras, media, movies, and stimulation of the senses. I've seen adults who are also addicted to being in the city, as opposed to living in a rural or natural setting.Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post-31635101711080737192010-07-11T12:35:44.884-07:002010-07-11T12:35:44.884-07:00Angela, the problem of manhood in modern America g...Angela, the problem of manhood in modern America goes much deeper than lack of initiation ceremonies. It has an economic and psychological side. There is very little that can be done by a parent...You need to immerse the kids in a different culture, where they can see men being useful to the community, where they can learn how to care about people and things, where they can be deprogrammed. from the mainstream cult.Iuval Clejanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14268182906177574307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post-51913213528064666972010-07-10T21:23:17.245-07:002010-07-10T21:23:17.245-07:00I also wanted to comment on this quote from above:...I also wanted to comment on this quote from above: "Men naturally want to be useful, of service, but they have to figure out to whom and how by themselves, without social expectations." <br /> I am wondering if this is possible, because what I am observing in my son and his friends, is that boys this age seem to lack empathy for others, they are incredibly selfish and self-obsessed, and they tend to relate to others only when they need something from them. This is a tendency I would like to evolve in my son. He used to be more compassionate as a younger child, always befriending those at school that others shunned, with a generous spirit. With adolescence, I have seen a waning of this kindness and generosity to others. "Boy culture" seems mean, rude, hurtful, and indifferent at times, compared to the attitudes and behavior of girls of this age. <br />Anyone see a way out for them? (Especially since good role models willing to help are rare as pearls!)Angelanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885245149616425096.post-67221871012634733432010-07-10T21:12:36.064-07:002010-07-10T21:12:36.064-07:00Interesting subject! As the single parent of a 15 ...Interesting subject! As the single parent of a 15 year old son, I've been thinking a lot about this subject, Evolving into True Manhood in modern times; and notice how so many are lost and clueless. Perhaps because we don't have Initiation Ceremonies, or Rites of Passage for adolescents, beyond being "Naughty" and getting drunk, smoking cigarettes, or otherwise sampling "adult fare." Girls seem to get the message that their job is to look good, and have a perfect body....(this is media influence.) For boys, who knows what maturing looks like: there are so few "self-realized" men, and so many male "types" to imitate: (jock, worker, intellectual, artist, scientist, healer, etc.)Angelanoreply@blogger.com